Sylvia Tillmann is a Certified TRE Provider, offering regular classes, mainly online, so you can stay in the comfort of your own home. Here she shares how you can look after yourself as a parent using TRE
Being a parent can be quite exhausting. There's so much to juggle – the kids, the household, maybe your job and your partner, too. What's the best advice for mums, but the hardest to follow?
Yes … 'look after yourself'. You've probably heard the analogy that you should put on your own oxygen mask first before assisting others. After all, you need to be fit and full of energy to support your family. Do you always follow this advice in real life? If you are anything like the majority of mums, let's face it … probably not. Is that right?
I wonder if you also have many, sometimes valid, excuses: I don't have the time, my kids need me, work is also demanding my attention, I want to spend time with my partner, extended family and friends and so on . But what can any busy person do to integrate relaxation into their daily life? Here are a few suggestions:
- Concentrate on your breathing as it's calming (check out James Nestor)
- Get good quality sleep – a power nap can work wonders
- Eat nourishing food, real food!
- Do household chores mindfully – it's amazing what a difference it can make -just try it
- Laugh wholeheartedly with your kids – they laugh for no reason, join in!
- Sing while cleaning, make it fun!
- Take a bath, you can add essential oils like lavender or chamomile
- Switch off your phone/social media – at least for a few hours
- Do some yoga stretches
- Get fresh air, ideally when the sun's out
- Shake it off!
Shake it off? Really? What's that? What does it mean and how do you do it?
The best way to explain it, is by watching a dog and observing what we can learn. A dog, who experiences a stressful situation, immediately shakes off the excess stress afterwards and then happily gets on with life. You've probably witnessed this, right? Well, we can do the same.
All mammals (and this includes us humans) are genetically encoded to tremor and therefore to release the tension and stresses of daily life. Sadly, we have been socialised out of it and tremoring or shaking is seen as weak and vulnerable. I agree, nobody wants to shake in front of their boss, but you can do so in the privacy of your own home and in a safe manner. How?
By learning TRE – Tension & Trauma Releasing Exercises, developed by Dr David Berceli.
Sadly still a fairly niche, but quite impressive modality.
TRE is a somatic self-help tool, a sequence of exercises that help the body to release deep muscular patterns of stress.
You've probably experienced it yourself, the more stressful life is, the more we tense up and we are holding all this tension in our bodies – over time it can show up as, e.g. tension headaches, teeth-grinding, shoulder/neck/back pain, gastrointestinal conditions, sore joints, anxiety .
By practising TRE, we relax our muscles from the inside out (not externally like when getting a massage), and this supports the body to return to a state of balance, i.e. a more relaxed nervous system. As stress is associated with almost 90% of all illnesses, being more relaxed can have many positive effects, e.g. deep relaxation, more resilience and positivity, better sleep, less pain etc.
By learning TRE you gain a tool for life. A self-help method, to take your health and well-being pro-actively into your own hands, well bodies.
Want to check it out yourself?
Please visit www.tremendousTRE.co.uk for more information.